Over time, different situations bring out different personalities in us. There are different dimensions to a personality but they are still you and they help us to survive.
The Nurturer
You know when a pal callas crying over some boy, and you offer your best heart-mending advice? This is your inner nurturer coming out. "The nurturer is a caring, comforting, gentle and compassionate individual". She comes out when your friend of partner has had a bad day. Her role is in looking after you too; it's the nurturer who silences your inner critic and allows you to chill out on rough days. However, our nurturing side can become draining if we don't pull the reigns when it comes to self-nurturing. We don't want to feel too sorry for ourselves or else, we will dig an emotional hole. Acknowledge the emotion, to get our mind right back on track.
The Motivator
At times, people might just sough "I'm so unmotivated" when they face difficulties. Everyone has an inner motivator and it speaks up when you get excited about a new idea. It's always there, but sometimes the lazy, childlike thoughts override it. Be aware of your motivating voice; if the lazy nullifies it, listen to what both have to say. The lazy side is always looking for reasons why. Why should I listen? Why should I work out? Why must I talk to dad? When you're in control of the motivator, you haul in the other inner personas for back-up. So, we must identify the positive and tell yourself to work out (because me will look hot).
The Inner Critic
Focusing too much on the motivator, the inner critic will rear its ugly head. It is the cause of guilt-addiction and is a real problem for most people. "Guilt and inner criticism are like chocolate cake where it's good within limits, but don't gorge on it. The inner critic is great for checking in on our conscience. To manage your inner critic, is to ask it loads of questions - Do I feel bad because I've hurt or inconvenienced someone? Or is it just because the rules I've imposed on myself are too unrealistic? Hear out the guilty voice, it expresses and unrecognized need. Then based on what you're trying to fulfill by feeling guilty, hence, bring in a more appropriate voice like the nurturer.
The Empathetic Ear
We embody the empathetic ear when someone we care about is going through a rough patch. Unlike the nurturer, the empathetic ear listens with kindness and compassion. We are often too quick to provide advice, so the empathetic ear provides an avenue to vent. But beware you don't wind up playing Agony Dulio constantly. Once a tensed situation is calm, it's helpful to switch over to the motivator. Without this shift in energy, you can exacerbate the problem and unconsciously turn into a rescuer. A rescuer seeks out dependent relationships for validation, so they constantly feel needed and never actually have any intention of fixing the problem.
The Party Animal
The party animal is the fun-loving, carefree self. She's charismatic - the one who comes out at a party or when making friends. "However, places like a boyfriend's parents' house is not the areas to bring out the party animal, even if it's how we're used to getting attention." The party animal and the motivator, surprisingly, work well together to keep you enjoying life. Use their best traits, such as their sense of humour of conversational ability.
The Pleaser
Pleasing people has become a normal part of life where we often do things for others to make them happy. While satisfying the people you love has its place. "The pleaser is a personality type that our society has allowed us to run rampant with because we think it'll gives us respect and approval." It's great to want to make people happy but make sure you aren't sacrificing too much or you'll end up full of resentment.
The Multi-Tasker
Our list of things to do in life is never-ending. While multi-tasking is a great way to get loads of things done in less time. Instead of a half-baked 20 minutes chat with your BF while doing your assignment, give all your attention to him for 5 minutes. "When you loosely concentrate on two things at once, you're spilling energy because you're not focusing and the jobs are only being half done."
The Anger-Monger
When you yell at the dog or fight with your boyfriend, this is the angermonger coming out, and there's one inside all of us worth acknowledging. "If you don't express it, there's a risk of winding up numb, and have the feelings surface in different ways such as fatigue." Anger is only appropriate some of the time, and if you're finding your firey side is exploding too often, find a release mechanism, such as a thorough session with a punching bag. (not boyfriend, woman)
The Child
The inner child helps us get in touch with our emotion, but there's a difference between childish and childlike. "Childish behavior can be interpreted as manipulative, like using baby voice to make a man powerful, but childlike behavior is liberating." Children are connected to their emotions, and exude a younger essence which is innocent and gentle. Being childish is like putting on a mask, whereas being childlike is stripping all of that away and just being yourself.
You know when a pal callas crying over some boy, and you offer your best heart-mending advice? This is your inner nurturer coming out. "The nurturer is a caring, comforting, gentle and compassionate individual". She comes out when your friend of partner has had a bad day. Her role is in looking after you too; it's the nurturer who silences your inner critic and allows you to chill out on rough days. However, our nurturing side can become draining if we don't pull the reigns when it comes to self-nurturing. We don't want to feel too sorry for ourselves or else, we will dig an emotional hole. Acknowledge the emotion, to get our mind right back on track.
The Motivator
At times, people might just sough "I'm so unmotivated" when they face difficulties. Everyone has an inner motivator and it speaks up when you get excited about a new idea. It's always there, but sometimes the lazy, childlike thoughts override it. Be aware of your motivating voice; if the lazy nullifies it, listen to what both have to say. The lazy side is always looking for reasons why. Why should I listen? Why should I work out? Why must I talk to dad? When you're in control of the motivator, you haul in the other inner personas for back-up. So, we must identify the positive and tell yourself to work out (because me will look hot).
The Inner Critic
Focusing too much on the motivator, the inner critic will rear its ugly head. It is the cause of guilt-addiction and is a real problem for most people. "Guilt and inner criticism are like chocolate cake where it's good within limits, but don't gorge on it. The inner critic is great for checking in on our conscience. To manage your inner critic, is to ask it loads of questions - Do I feel bad because I've hurt or inconvenienced someone? Or is it just because the rules I've imposed on myself are too unrealistic? Hear out the guilty voice, it expresses and unrecognized need. Then based on what you're trying to fulfill by feeling guilty, hence, bring in a more appropriate voice like the nurturer.
The Empathetic Ear
We embody the empathetic ear when someone we care about is going through a rough patch. Unlike the nurturer, the empathetic ear listens with kindness and compassion. We are often too quick to provide advice, so the empathetic ear provides an avenue to vent. But beware you don't wind up playing Agony Dulio constantly. Once a tensed situation is calm, it's helpful to switch over to the motivator. Without this shift in energy, you can exacerbate the problem and unconsciously turn into a rescuer. A rescuer seeks out dependent relationships for validation, so they constantly feel needed and never actually have any intention of fixing the problem.
The Party Animal
The party animal is the fun-loving, carefree self. She's charismatic - the one who comes out at a party or when making friends. "However, places like a boyfriend's parents' house is not the areas to bring out the party animal, even if it's how we're used to getting attention." The party animal and the motivator, surprisingly, work well together to keep you enjoying life. Use their best traits, such as their sense of humour of conversational ability.
The Pleaser
Pleasing people has become a normal part of life where we often do things for others to make them happy. While satisfying the people you love has its place. "The pleaser is a personality type that our society has allowed us to run rampant with because we think it'll gives us respect and approval." It's great to want to make people happy but make sure you aren't sacrificing too much or you'll end up full of resentment.
The Multi-Tasker
Our list of things to do in life is never-ending. While multi-tasking is a great way to get loads of things done in less time. Instead of a half-baked 20 minutes chat with your BF while doing your assignment, give all your attention to him for 5 minutes. "When you loosely concentrate on two things at once, you're spilling energy because you're not focusing and the jobs are only being half done."
The Anger-Monger
When you yell at the dog or fight with your boyfriend, this is the angermonger coming out, and there's one inside all of us worth acknowledging. "If you don't express it, there's a risk of winding up numb, and have the feelings surface in different ways such as fatigue." Anger is only appropriate some of the time, and if you're finding your firey side is exploding too often, find a release mechanism, such as a thorough session with a punching bag. (not boyfriend, woman)
The Child
The inner child helps us get in touch with our emotion, but there's a difference between childish and childlike. "Childish behavior can be interpreted as manipulative, like using baby voice to make a man powerful, but childlike behavior is liberating." Children are connected to their emotions, and exude a younger essence which is innocent and gentle. Being childish is like putting on a mask, whereas being childlike is stripping all of that away and just being yourself.
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